From Newsday...
Baby shower can't finance adoption
Roberta's Note: I personally hate the idea of trolling for funds. This isn't the same as the expectant grandparents offering a special gift. This isn't the same as working a second job or cutting back expenses or making something to sell something.
Those are all generally fine to my way of thinking.
But the blatant, naked call for funds - Help us bring little BooBoo home - gives me the creepy crawleys. (I know very few folks who troll to fund IVF. "My eggs suck, help me find and bake new eggs. Send $$$ to PayPal.")
Before folks commit to adoption, they need to have a legitimate funding plan in advance. Not that you need to have all the $$ upfront, but you do need to be able to say, "Ok, total fees are X. We have Y. We will need to fund through Z, and AA, BB, CC over a XX month period."
It may take a village to raise a child, but via birth or adoption, making a family should be a private matter. Otherwise adoption veers dangerously close to an act of charity far and beyond the desire to parent.
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I have to say that I agree with you. Adoption is such a personal event that I have a big problem with the fundraiser concept. If you are ready to do it, then you should be ready to do it
Thank you! As a prospective Adoptive mother from China I'm so sick of the yahoo boards and "how can I fund raise" "Please buy my adoption braclettes" How about we just say get an f-ing job!!!
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